6 Goals for my Marriage in 2024
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My husband and I have been married for 12 and half years. They have not all been easy but I feel like we are hitting a sweet spot. We have learned to communicate better and prefer one another over ourselves. It is important to continue to grow together year after year. If you are not moving towards one another, you are moving away from each other. There have been plenty of times throughout our marriage that we have let a busy life get in the way of pursuing one another. The new year is a great time to press the reset button and reassess how you are doing and set goals for the coming year.
1. Read together
This is something that we both want to do but we do not always prioritize. Our plan is to do less tv time together and more reading. I have read many books out loud to my husband including the entire, Hunger Games series. hah. Check out the list below of a few books we plan to read together this year.
2. Consistent date night
Now this one, my husband and I are awesome at. We have a number of babysitters that we trust and usually go out after the kids are in bed. We grab a yummy meal or a movie together and it is such a sweet time. Having a date night to look forward to brightens my whole week. Getting dressed up and focusing on one another is so good for a marriage. My husband and I are going to have more date nights at home and one date night out a month. This will help our budget and savings goals. We will still have focused, fun, one on one time at home but just a simpler date night. If you need at home date night ideas, check out this post.
3. Pray together
Prayer is so important. Shower your marriage in prayer. Pray for your husband daily. Bring your burdens and concerns to the Lord in prayer. Praying in the morning together before you start the day is very encouraging and helps jumpstart your day. Asking each other what you can pray for is helpful. Simply asking your spouse gives you an insight on their life and what is heavy on their mind. Praying before you go to bed helps unify your hearts and helps put anxious minds at ease. Pray together. Pray for one another. Pray without ceasing. Bear one another’s burdens. Invite
4. Have our monthly meeting
I will write a post going into better detail of our monthly meeting soon. We try to make it a fun time, maybe order some takeout and enjoy connection and dreaming together. We cover various topics and not every week looks the same depending on what is going on in life. We want to be more consistent with this in 2024.
5. Learn to speak each other's love language
Before we got married, we read the 5 Love Languages. That was 13 years ago, we plan to read it and retake the quiz. Then we will both share a list of how the other one can make us feel loved. I’ll share the results with you once we do. It’s not enough to know each other’s love language, you need to put forth the effort of speaking that language.
6. Spend some time away just the two of you
We went on ATVs through the Nevada desert last year.
My husband and I try to spend at least one night away together. Sometimes it looks like a staycation and sometimes we are able to take anniversary trips. Once you have kids, nights away become more complicated. There is definitely a fine line between trusting someone with your kids and letting go a little. My mindset is, find someone who truly loves your kids and enjoys being around them and then let go of the rest. They may not do everything exactly like you but that is ok. The time away with your spouse is much needed especially after you have kids. We have had nights in Dallas (we live about 30 minutes outside) where we go to dinner, spend a night in a hotel room, get some brunch in the morning and then head home. Even less than 24 hours away can help reconnect you two and help you feel refreshed.
books to read as a couple
Check out these other posts for some great date night ideas for 2024.